A video series for mothers.
Heartfelt conversations and guidance from Dr Shilla, a female gynaecologist and Muslim gynae in Singapore, created for mothers at every stage of their journey.
Pap Smears: When Should You Start?
When should a woman start having Pap smears? In this Dear Mama episode, Dr Shilla explains why Pap smears are an important part of women's healthcare and why she routinely discusses them with her postnatal patients. Pap smears are used to screen for cervical cancer. Rather than focusing only on age, Dr Shilla highlights the importance of considering whether a woman is sexually active and encourages women not to delay appropriate cervical screening.
Key Takeaways
- Pap smears are a form of cervical cancer screening — A Pap smear is used to check for changes in the cervix as part of cervical cancer screening.
- Dr Shilla discusses Pap smears with her postnatal patients — For Dr Shilla, women's healthcare does not simply end after childbirth. She routinely discusses cervical screening with her postnatal patients as part of their ongoing women's health care.
- Being sexually active matters when discussing cervical screening — Dr Shilla highlights sexual activity as an important consideration when discussing when cervical screening should begin.
- Don't wait until later in life to think about cervical screening — Cervical screening is an important preventive health measure. Speak with your doctor about when screening is appropriate for you rather than assuming it is something that only needs to be considered when you are older.
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Dear Mama — Common Concerns of First-time Moms
It's completely normal to feel anxious during your first pregnancy. Many first-time mums worry about whether their symptoms are normal, if their baby is growing well, or if they're doing everything correctly. In this episode, Dr Shilla Mariah shares reassurance and practical advice to help mothers navigate this exciting yet uncertain journey with confidence.
Key Takeaways
- Feeling anxious during your first pregnancy is completely normal. Every pregnancy is different, and it's natural to have questions and concerns, especially when everything is new.
- Not every symptom is a cause for alarm. Many common pregnancy symptoms are expected, but it's important to know when something doesn't feel right and seek medical advice.
- Avoid comparing your pregnancy with others. Every mother and every baby are different. Comparing experiences on social media or with friends may create unnecessary worry.
- Ask questions whenever you're unsure. No concern is too small. Your obstetrician is there to guide and reassure you throughout your pregnancy.
- Trust your instincts. If something feels unusual or you're worried about your baby's wellbeing, don't hesitate to contact your doctor or seek medical attention.
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Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding can be beneficial for both mother and baby, but every mother's breastfeeding journey is different. In this episode of Dear Mama, Dr Shilla discusses the benefits of breastfeeding while also emphasising the importance of supporting mothers without placing unnecessary pressure on them. While breast milk provides important benefits for babies, breastfeeding may not always be possible or sustainable for every mother. Dr Shilla highlights that a mother's wellbeing matters too, and feeding decisions should take into consideration both baby and mother.
Key Takeaways
- Breastfeeding has benefits for babies — Breast milk provides nutrition for babies and breastfeeding can offer important health benefits.
- Breastfeeding may support a baby's immunity — Dr Shilla discusses the potential immune benefits of breastfeeding and shares her own observation of breastfeeding her child.
- Every mother's breastfeeding journey is different — Although breastfeeding can be beneficial, not every mother is able to breastfeed successfully or comfortably.
- Mothers should not feel pressured to breastfeed — Breastfeeding should not come at the expense of a mother's wellbeing. Mothers who are unable to breastfeed should not be made to feel guilty or inadequate.
- A mother's wellbeing matters too — Dr Shilla raises an important question: if breastfeeding is severely affecting a mother emotionally or mentally, we also need to consider the impact on the mother.
- Ultimately, ensuring baby is fed is important — The conversation should not simply be about whether a mother breastfeeds. The wellbeing of both mother and baby matters.
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Common Misconceptions About C-Sections
A C-section is sometimes misunderstood as the easier way to give birth, but it is actually major abdominal surgery that comes with its own recovery and challenges. In this Dear Mama episode, Dr Shilla addresses some of the misconceptions surrounding C-sections, including the feeling of failure that some mothers experience when an emergency C-section becomes necessary. Her reminder to mothers is simple: having a C-section does not make your birth experience any less meaningful, and it certainly does not make you a failure.
Key Takeaways
- A C-section is major abdominal surgery — A C-section is not simply an "easier" alternative to vaginal birth. It is a major surgical procedure and requires appropriate recovery and care afterwards.
- Recovery can be more challenging — Mothers are recovering from surgery while simultaneously caring for and adjusting to life with a newborn. The physical recovery from a C-section can therefore bring its own set of challenges.
- An emergency C-section is not a failure — Some mothers may feel disappointed or believe that they have "failed" because they were unable to have the vaginal birth they had hoped for. A change in the mode of delivery does not mean that a mother has failed.
- The way you deliver does not determine your strength as a mother — Whether a baby is delivered vaginally or through C-section, childbirth requires tremendous strength.
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